Everyone goes through bouts of loneliness, and children have an even harder time of dealing with that because they have lower levels of autonomy and their well-being is directly related to their parents. It's not always easy to tell your parents that you might be dealing with troubles in school, or that you're having problems making or keeping friends.
In the dawn on commercial internet, a lot of parents were worried about internet predators. This fear was so significant that Dateline NBC created a hit show named "To Catch A Predator" in which they focused on apprehending adults who preyed sexually on teenagers. However, as time has gone on, this fear has been somewhat abated, being replaced by the real growing community of young people online. A 2009 article by Patti Valkenberg and Jochen Peter named "Social Consequences of the Internet for Adolescents" discusses how online relationships are much more likely for young people regardless of their social status offline. These relationships also tend to be with people their own age who they aren't able to reach geographically, and most importantly these relationships are stable. This kind of online interaction could be very important for teens who might be being persecuted offline for things like their sexual orientation, interests, or appearance. Having an online community can ward off mental illness and social alienation.
An article by Shen Caixia, Liu Rude, and Wang Dan at Beijing Normal University in 2013 also illustrates this. The study involved 637 children grades 3-6 and looked at personality in its' correlation with other factors like entertainment and information seeking. They found that children ultimately used the internet more when they were lonely, but that internet use also abated those feelings.
The 2009 Valkenberg and Peter article also showed that having stable relationships promotes mental and physical well-being. By having these strong relationships, whether online or offline, children scored higher on "the five-item
satisfaction-with-life scale developed by Diener, Emmons, Larsen,
and Griffin (1985)." The big takeaways here are as follows: the internet is a huge place. Just because not-so-good things happen in some parts of it doesn't mean good things can't happen elsewhere. People meet on the internet all the time, and that doesn't devalue the status of their friendship. In-fact, online friendships can be more open because they are "low stakes" so to speak. If things go south with an internet friend, you can block them and move on. No awkward conversations at school or gossip. This means you can share more easily and freely, and there is not so much on the line. Stable online relationships can also lead to higher levels of mental and physical health, not to mention greater life satisfaction. Having internet friends can improve childhood development, and it's becoming an important part of internet use.
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